(This is going to be a long post, please bear with me.)
If friends are really the family we choose, then I think I’ve chosen the right people. My best friends are the ones I turn to when things just get too much. I may not tell them about everything, but just talking with them is already enough to make me feel a bit better. They lift me up but at the same time still keep my feet on the ground. I owe them so much.
My best friends belong to several different circles of friendship. For one, there are childhood best friends. I practically grew up with them since we live in the same neighborhood. We’ve been friends for, like, 25 years. I know, it sounds a lot, even I don’t know how we could maintain a friendship that long. But I’m very grateful we did. My friendship with them has shaped me into who I am today, more or less. However, we don’t talk much these days. No, we’re not fighting. It’s just… life, I guess? We have different priorities right now. But I know they’ll come around if I need them, I’ve never doubted about that.
Moving on to best friends from junior high. SO, I went to the same junior high school with one of my childhood best friends. On the other hand, a good friend from elementary school also enrolled in the same junior high school. I introduced them to each other and we were inseparable ever since! It all happened very naturally—our friendship. We did almost everything together, from school projects, mentoring sessions, to many stupid shits. I was sad we didn’t go to the same high school, but I’m grateful that our friendship still remains steady until this day.
High school, though, was a whole different game. I was alone, I didn’t know anybody. I can’t remember what possessed me back then but on the first day of high school orientation, I managed to approach a girl and I think I literally begged her to be my friend HAHAHA. You have no idea how relieved I was when I knew that we were put in the same classroom. I can’t remember how it happened but somehow we became close with three other friends, so there were five of us. Out of all my circles of best friends, I consider this high school friendship as the most “well-behaved” one. HAHAHA I don’t know, maybe it’s because we were “trained” to be that way in high school even though we still did some mischievous things here and there. I just spoke to them a few days ago actually, and I’m glad that they seem to be doing well.
Unfortunately, neither of us pursued the same major in college, so we kinda parted ways back then. I was alone—again! But college was… college. And my college best friends are… interesting. HJAJSAHSKHJ. They’re just different from my other best friends, but in a good way! Some of them are very extroverted and outgoing, which at first I didn’t get used to. But along the way, I've grown very fond of them. Now I understand that I really need that kind of friends to pull me out of my shell. They never doubt to drag my ass to make me do some things I never did before. Not all of them are like that, by the way. Some others are more reserved like me. We all just balance each other out, I guess? No wonder that my college best friends are the ones I still talk to the most these days.
And then there are best friends from work. Okay, here’s the thing. I’m not an open person and it’s hard for me to make new friends, especially in this adult age. So when I started my very first job at a digital content agency a few years ago, I kinda lowered my expectation about having a new friendship. I thought, “Just work, do your best, and go home.” For the first few years, it kinda happened that way though. But then more new workmates joined the company and—oh, God—we clicked? I don’t know how it happened but we just became good friends? Even until we all have resigned from the company, to this day we still talk to each other A LOT. My friendship with them has become one of the nicest surprises I’ve ever experienced in my life because I didn’t see that coming at all.
Each friendship has a different dynamic and it completes my life in many different aspects. I’m so, SO grateful that our paths intertwined to form all these meaningful friendships. I know I may not say it all the time, but guys if any of you read this—you know who you are—I love you! Thank you for putting up with me for all these years. Really, I owe my best friends a lot. They deserve all the good things in the world. Once this eff-ing pandemic ends, let's meet up soon!
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